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Before Anyone Else Misunderstands

12 Apr

I wanted to write a disclaimer to the story I told about testing, before anyone else misunderstands my intentions.

That story was not intended as a “Haha, transpeople are weird” story.  That story was intended as a “That kid is so silly for thinking that’s the worst thing about pregnancy” story.

Gender and sex are often confused terms.  Sex is your biology and what your genes say about you.  Gender is the more social construct.  It is how you feel.  It is not always clear cut and there are not always two genders/sexes.

Some people feel that they were assigned the wrong gender at birth, and this could have come around in a variety of ways.  It is not an evil thing.  It’s not a bad thing.  It’s not a ha-ha thing.  It’s just a thing.  If the individual feels that they would feel happier or more comfortable as another gender, then they should change.  I don’t necessarily mean that they all need a sex change operation or hormones, because, believe it or not, those can be difficult to come by.  Some individuals may feel they have changed enough simply by acting as the other sex.  If it makes them happy, why not?  They are not any more deviant than someone who feels comfortable in their assigned gender.

No one gender is ultimately better than the other.  They may have certain differences due to their genetics, including brain chemistry and make up, but this does not make one gender better than another, and anyone who says differently is a dipshit.  At the same time, anyone who says the genders are exactly the same and that the only differences are from the neck down are simply misinformed.  Again, I want to stress that no one gender is ultimately better than the other.

And one final note: It’s insulting to say that no girl wants to grow up to be a man, or that no one cares that the little girl wants to grow up to be a man.  We ask all children the same questions.  The only thing we change are the pronouns.